Three Women Pen An Open Letter To Mira Rajput After She Slammed Working Mothers


Mira Rajput has in been in headlines since she attended a Women’s Day event recently. The young mother spoke about her life in general and also shared her idea of being a hands-on mother to her daughter, Misha.

She spoke about how the feeling of seeing your child grow up is an unparalleled one and said, “I wouldn’t want to spend one hour a day with my child and then rush off to work. Why did I have her then? She is not a puppy. I want to be there for her as a mother. Seeing her grow up can not be quantified.”

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Now that was a statement that irked many and invited a social media backlash. Many found it to be a completely insensitive one and three working ladies, Amrita, Deepti and Rohini, wrote an open letter to Mira sharing their perspective on the same.


Here’s what they wrote:

Dear Mira,

We are three working mothers, very busy and pressed for time. Nevertheless, we decided to take some time out and share a different perspective – pro bono since one of us is a lawyer.

We have worked pretty much since the day we got our hands on our shiny degrees and we have enjoyed working and success at the workplace.

So to put it in black and white – we choose to work! Cue the offended gasps and muttered asides – you unnatural mother!

So, why do we work?

Independence: We like having our own identity in the broader adult world. We like being a consultant, a manager, a lawyer. We are proud of our titles. They are part of our identity. Also let’s not forget financial independence, we haven’t asked anyone for money since the day we turned 21 and we aren’t about to start now. Also, we don’t have any diamond encrusted nest eggs and platinum spoons in our mouths.

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Our brain needs food: Our brains hunger for challenges and the need to acquire new skills. We thrive on solving that knotty problem, the one — our male bosses couldn’t solve.

It’s our passion, we have studied and worked hard to get here and we enjoy using this brilliant tool! The challenge of child-rearing while pursing and excelling at our passion is our every day struggle.

To be a better role model: As our daughters grow up, they will see mothers who are engaged and happy and productive. They will see mothers who are dealing with the challenges of everyday life, who come home and cry when their day at office has been bad and still wipe their tears, polish their smiles and go off to work the next day.

Our daughters will realise that the world is a much bigger and complex place and that they aren’t the centre of the universe. They will understand that sometimes you may need to choose between priorities. Children learn a lot through observation. We hope our daughters observe us failing and succeeding — they need to learn, it’s ok to fail sometimes, just do better the next time.


The Cling Cling in the bank: All three of us are privileged and let’s acknowledge that. We have double degrees from top universities and working with the best companies in the country. Can we manage without the money? Probably, yes. Will we need to cut corners? Definitely, yes. Do we want to cut corners? Maybe not. So, in part, we work to give our children a better lifestyle, to afford that international vacation to Florence so that we can introduce our children to the brilliant work of Bernini, Michelangelo and Caravaggio.

But there is a whole spectrum of women who are not so lucky. They have to work to pay the bills. We speak with them in the train, we empathise because they left their three-month-old at a crèche since maternity leave was only 12 weeks.

We help them clean spilled milk off their clothes because their breasts are still producing milk to feed the baby. We offer to lend them our breast pump since they cannot afford one.

We don’t judge. We help. We are all trying our best. Whether that translates to staying up all night with a sick child and rushing for a critical meeting in the morning because you have made a commitment that needs to be honoured or catching a nap in the train/car because the baby was cluster feeding all night or going to office when you are ill so that you would have leave available when your child needs you.

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We are thankful for the stay at home mothers in our playschool groups who keep us abreast of what’s happening in school and remind us that we need to dress the kid in blue on Friday because it’s “Blue Day” (we forgot to when it was “Red Day”).

We have tremendous respect for them, it’s not easy dealing with a toddler and managing a household. Some of them may have sacrificed their ambitions and aspirations because they felt that this was the best choice for their child and their family. Some of them may not have been given a choice at all. We are lucky to have our supportive husbands who ensure that we have a choice.


So, let’s come to the fundamental point here:  Don’t judge. You have been on the receiving end of a lot of judgement because of your choices. So, you know what it feels like. Whether a stay-at-home or working or an entrepreneur or a freelancer or single, we are all women and mothers.

Let’s acknowledge that we are all doing the best we can and thriving in or despite our circumstances.

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We all do whatever it takes to make our children happy. We read the same book again and again till we know it by heart, we make the same funny faces to hear them laugh, we all plead with them to eat some vegetables.

So, let’s all pat each other on our backs, and be each other’s cheerleaders. Let’s stop judging and instead build each other up. They say it takes a village to bring up a child. So, let’s be a tribe with pride in our choices.

Lots of love and positive vibes,

Amrita, Deepti and Rohini.

H/T: Indiatimes, DailyO

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